(I wrote this entry on the 26th August 2006 and i guess today will be a good day to post it up)

I wonder if God ever calls me to be a BGR Counselor? Actually this is one of the topics which interest me the most but i also hated handling the most. Reason? I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT? hahahhaa …… People open up to me easily in this area, or did i probe too much? Doesn’t that make me a gossiper or a ‘Kapo’? But still, i think i am a failure in advising them in such areas. Cause none of them seems to heed my advises anyway. ahhahaaa …… Today, I thought i write down what type of Girl i am looking for, or the kind who will normally attracted me. Not saying i will fall in love with them but those who are able to draw my attention.

One: Woman of God.
I am drawn to women who love God and are willing to serve God with their life. That includes putting God first in everything they do. These woman usually talks about God and God and God most of their time. Sometimes about their ministries, sometimes about their problems, but still able to trust God in terms of their worries. They praise God and worship God for everything that happen to them. You can see a spiritual woman. A person who prays and seek God in their lives.

Someone once ask me.
“If you can’t have a normal conversation with the girl you like beside talking about God, something might be wrong?”

I took that at that time as a
“Ohhh … maybe that person is right, i should make other kind of conversation as well.”

But now i see it as
“If God is not part of your conversation, somethings might be wrong here.”

Truely if one love God, everything that was done will have God. might sound abit extreme, but doesn’t that says much about us and God? How can God take the centre stage of our life without involving Him in everything we do?

Two: Intelligent
The word is intelligent and not clever or smart. An intelligent girl are one who are able to form her own thinking on her own and not one who just respond with a “YES”, “YES”, “YES”. This girl should be able to think things through and determine whether it is right or wrong. She should be one who are able to give her own opinion over certain issues. I guess i will even add in a sense of humor here as well.

Bear with me, i am not looking for one who is quarrelsome or one who always want to be right. But if everything i say is going to be right, i might as well be looking for someone to obey me. The girl must be able to correct and rebuke if i am wrong. She must be able to show me the truth – THE WORD OF GOD.

This reminds me of Adam and Eve. Eve is to support Adam, and when Eve sin, this in turn cause Adam to sin as well. Of course, we need both hands to clap, when we look at Adam when they took of the fruit of knowledge, Adam was beside Eve, it also make us question the leading of Adam in that situation. But the reason for this story reveals a need for both Man and Woman to support each other in their respective roles.

Of course in order for ‘Two’ to be look upon, ‘One’ has to be fulfilled. For if the girl is not godly enough, her opinion will be based on worldly aspects not of God.

Three: Same level of Spiritual Maturity
I will actually prefer girls who have a slight higher level of spiritual maturity. A higher spiritual maturity means a gal loving God, chasing after God and willing to correct, rebuke with the Word of God and in love. Someone who can help me to grow even more in God. As she continues to grow, i continues to grow. Of course what i am talking about is slightly higher. I believe that it is not beneficial for one who has a higher level of spiritual maturity over another. The pressure is there, the ministry level is different as well and it will reveal a lack of common spirituality. Of course a guy is suppose to lead, i am not forgetting that. That is why i only believe that slight difference in spiritual maturity will be beneficial to both parties.